Once again we are faced with our own shortcomings. Do you know them? Are you aware? and if you think you are how, who, or what makes you aware? Do you have a partner who can be open with you about these things? Do you have coworkers who you allow to be candid about your abilities? Do you listen to the comments, wisecracks, jabs and funny comments that are meant to be funny but are also based in truth?
One of the greatest things you can have as a manager is the ability to hear someone else when they talk about you. Yes, we are all defensive. We all want to justify why we did what we did or said what we said and we all want to show others why what we did was right in our eyes but the truth is, how others see us is truly how we are.
I have a saying, crass but true, if enough people think you are an ass then you probably are.
Again the question is, are you in control of your group or are you controlling your group? I listen to so many people discuss issues of control from their leadership. Often this is called micro-managing. Do you know what micro-managing is? Are you aware of how you do or don’t do this?
The greatest challenge for a manager is to know your people. Your job is to know your people well enough, to select a team strong enough, to lead a group that is smart enough to honor each and every member, including you, by being comfortably honest about each other.
What does comfortably honest mean? It means, we all have to have this great attitude that says, “I need help, input and growth.” and with that office mantra we share with one another, at the right times and with the right attitude and care how each of us can improve. Yes, a difficult task. One that takes a great team.
So that, when it’s your turn, they can look at you, and without worrying about repercussions, they can honestly assess your performance and help you to see and understand how the team feels about how you are working the group.
This means they will keep you on track, they will share with you your issues. They will tell you if you are ‘in control’ of the group or if you are being controlling. And there is huge difference between ‘in control’ and ‘controlling’. One being a successful leader of a team (great manager) and one that will tear the team apart eventually by ruining morale, destroying creativity and stopping communication.
Now can you answer this question comfortably? Are you in control or are you controlling your department?
Steve Sapato is a management trainer and speaker and trains leaders and managers they can be GREAT at their jobs by using skills and tools that can be learned by everyone.
His website is Mentalprosperityblog.com and you can reach Steve at firstname.lastname@example.org for information and ideas that will help your company grow.